Bullying Action Steps
Ten Things Parents Can do to Support Kids who Experience Bullying (Victims)
(From Ask Resource Center)
- Listen carefully and acknowledge your child's feelings.
- Focus on comforting and supporting your child, not on your anger at what happened.
- Empower your child by reinforcing the child's positive self-image.
- Praise your child's efforts to handle difficult situations with other children.
- Offer suggestions to help your child learn to be more effective in dealing with the situation.
- Make your child part of the solution - ask what the child thinks will help improve things.
- Help your child practice how to respond to bullying behavior.
- Identify "safe" people (adults) your child can go to for support.
- Help your child identify friends who can offer support.
- Document what happened and report it.
(Additionally from PACER CENTER)
- Meet with your child's teacher, principal, and, if necessary, the district superintendent:
- Discuss what is happening to your child
- Ask what can be done so your child feels safe at school
- Present your work with your child regarding the situation
- Ask for the written policy on bullying or harassment (or perform self-search online)
- Present how the situation is impacting your child:
- Does not want to come to school
- Is fearful he/she will be hurt
- Complains of stomach aches, headaches, etc.
- Has other new behavior as a result of the bullying
Ten Things Parents Can do to Support Kids Who Bully (Aggressors)
(From PACER CENTER)
- Talk with your child about why this is happening and how they feel about themselves.
- Confirm that your child's behavior is bullying and not the result of a disability such as a behavior disorder.
- Teach empathy, respect, and compassion to increase awareness of other people's feelings.
- Make your expectations clear that bullying others is unacceptable and will not be tolerated.
- Provide clear, consistent, and meaningful consequences for bullying such as loss of privileges.
- Teach by example by demonstrating cooperation, respectful ways to resolve conflict, and appropriate anger management skills.
- Role-play non-aggressive behavior by practicing suitable ways to address different situations.
- Provide positive feedback when your child demonstrates positive interaction with other children.
- Be realistic about behavior change allowing time for your child to work on it and supporting them the whole way through.
- Seek help from professionals such as your child's doctor and/or school staff to help your family deal with bullying behavior.