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Sexual Assault Can Happen - Be A Resource
WAS THIS SEXUAL ASSAULT?
My friend didn't want to have sex, but she didn't fight back or yell.
Sexual assault is when someone has sex with you when you don't want to. It's common to "freeze" and not fight or yell. It's also common not to have injuries after an assault. If you are impaired from drugs or alcohol and don't say yes, it's sexual assault – even if you can't remember the details.
She knows him and he's a really nice guy, but she said no.
If you didn't consent, there's no excuse for the other person to continue. The vast majority of sexual assaults occur by someone we know.
SANE NURSES CAN HELP.
The Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner (SANE) care team is located within the Emergency Department at UnityPoint Health – Meriter and available 24/7. We realize this can be a frightening time, so nurses are ready to provide compassionate care regardless of when the assault occurred.
Will SANE nurses call my parents, Dean of Students or the police?
No. SANE nurses will not contact anyone without your consent. Program funding covers the cost of SANE exams so insurance is not needed. SANE nurses will provide medical care even if you don't report the crime.
Will I receive care from SANE if I know who sexually assaulted me?
Yes. Many of the assault victims SANE nurses see (approx. 400/year) know their perpetrator. It is your decision whether or not to tell the nurse the person's name.
Will I receive care from SANE if I was drinking and can't remember what happened?
Yes. Many patients have a limited or no memory of the assault. Alcohol and other drugs can make it difficult to recall the details. Some students say, "Something just doesn't feel right" or "I feel like someone had sex with me."
SANE will not call the police if you were drinking and/or underage. Nurses will provide medical care even if you can't recall the details.
HOW YOU CAN HELP.
Don't question your friend's actions.
Being assaulted is never your fault or your friend's fault.
Your support can have a positive impact on your friend's recovery.
HOW WE CAN HELP.